men know that trying to last longer while having sex can be
difficult.It is and frustrating also especially when man climaxes
before pleasing his woman. So, here I will share with you some tips on
how to last longer while having sex.
Are you sick of the embarrassment of orgasming way too early during sex?
Are you worried that your partner may leave you for someone else who can satisfy her needs?
Do you afraid that your partner will cheat on you, due to your inability to last long enough to give her an orgasm?
you are not alone, a recent online poll found over 70% of males would
like to last longer in bed. In this article we'll be addressing the
topic of how to last longer in bed, and we'll look at a few techniques
that you can useto boost your staying power instantly.
premature ejaculation and lasting longer in bed is vital if you are to
become a better lover and one who is able to satisfy his partner
sexually. It takes on average about 20 minutes for most women to
achieve an orgasm through intercourse alone. Also even without the
problem of premature ejaculation, most men will climax after only a
good five minutes of sex.
Howcan you fill this obvious gap?
What can be done to have longer lasting sex andend the problem of premature ejaculation?
ejaculation is the cause of many marriage and relationship breakdown's
as unsatisfied sexual partners may look elsewhere to seek a more
fulfilling sex life.
One reason why men might not be
able to last longer in bed is the age. It is known that young males in
their late teens and early twenties tend to get over excited when it
comes to sex. It is understandable that this happens, since at a young
age not much thought goes into the actual act of having sex. Instead a
young male may solely be thinking of his own ego and in order to
satisfy it only feels the need to bed as many girls as possible in the
shortest space of time. If that has been the case then a habit of
ejaculating quickly may have been formed early on.
old man could be in this embarrassing position if he weren't in a
relationship for an extended period and so turned to masturbation to
relieve his sexual urges. This situation creates the habit to ejaculate
without thinking about satisfying a partner, so the sole aim may have
been to ejaculate as soon as he possibly could in order to avoid
expending too much time and energy.
First of all, you
need to realize why you have troubles with erections. One hand is that
your testosterone levels begin to decrease. Testosterone is a hormone
that influences sexual and athletic performance. It begin to
decrease,mainly after the age of 30.
On the other
hand, the reason could be the fact your blood circulation isn't what it
used to be. Erections are caused by blood flow pooling in the penis,
solack of blood pressure and circulation directly affects the strength
and size of your erection.
May be you're the one
having problems keeping a solid erection during intercourse. It is bad,
but not the worst thing in the world. First of all you shouldn't feel
ashamed. Statistics show that half of all men aged 40-70 years
experience some form of sexual problem.
a)Exercise and Effective Massage Treatment
is a fact that an effective massage treatment can remove blood stasis
or other blockage in any parts of a body. When done accordingly by a
specialist, it will furthermore increase the blood circulation ,
allowing the maximum possible blood flow to the penis.
it will come to certain circumstances that you will not be able to
control the heightening sensitivity and the maximum pleasure that leads
to a premature ejaculation. Some people would just masturbate and
ejaculate before having an intercourse, hoping for a longer intimate
session that will follow afterwards. But they don't realize that
they'll just wasting their energy and have been doing it all wrong from
the beginning! To practise jelqing, manhood massage and any other
similar exercises will actually help to lower the heightening
sensations and all those sexual arousals before having an intercouse.
Try this and you will know!
One of the keys to
lasting longer in bed is to control your breathing to a relaxed manner.
Breathing and ejaculation are linked. When you are having sex with your
partner your breathing starts off slow, as you and your partner get
more aroused you'll notice that your breathing starts to speed up, the
more aroused you get the the more your breathing speeds up until you
reach a climax and ejaculate.
Nothing more, nothing
less, just a 15 minute a day training. Relax and increase your body
awareness There are very many techniques out there to help you relaxand
be more able to 'feel' your body. As an alternative healing
practitioner I have experience with very many powerful relaxation,
meditation and breathing techniques. Perhaps the simplest one is just
paying attention to your breathing during sex.
b)Increase awareness of your sexual arousal.
open your awareness to your feelings of pleasure and pay close
attention to your arousal levels. Awareness is the first step to
understanding which is itself a step towards mastery .Focus on your
pleasure during sex,during exercise or even the subtle pleasure you
experience when a gorgeous woman gets on the commuter/bus.
are many techniques you can learn to extend your pleasure. As youbecome
more aware of your sexual arousal a natural increase in your arousal
level is inevitable. This will happen because you will become familiar
and comfortable with your pleasure, and your body will propel you to
greater heights naturally.
As your sexual pleasure
naturally increases with more practice, you will begin to 'play' with
it. Manipulate your breathing patterns, sexual energy field and subtle
internal sensations, to the point that you can begin to feel mastery
over them. Again, ancient wisdom, sex manuals and other people's
experiences are full of eye opening possibilities.
Learn the erotic tantric massage and apply it to your partner.
c) Stop thinking
your conscious mind out of the picture. Investigate or experiment
withtechniques to get your internal dialogue to shut up. Experience all
of thisintense and joyous pleasure, not in your head, not by thinking
about it ... but in your body. Feel it! The key is connecting more
deeply to your own sensations and feelings.
d)The PC muscle and Kegel
the middle of your stream of urine, stop and start the stream several
times. PC muscles are the muscles you just used. Note, that at first
you may also squeeze your anal muscles. As you become experienced, try
to separate out different muscle groups that you are able to exercise
Kegel workouts can provide men with stronger
erections.Thereare said to be significant benefits for the problem of
premature ejaculation from having more muscular control of the pelvis..
It is also possible that strengthening the pelvic floor may allow some
men to achieve a form of orgasm without allowing ejaculation, and
thereby perhaps reach multiple"climaxes" during sexual activity..In
men, this exercise lifts up the testicles, also strengthening the
cremaster muscle, as well as the analsphincter, as the anus is the main
area contracted when a Kegel is done. Thisis because the pubococcygeus
muscle begins around the anus and runs up to the urinary sphincter.
f) Thrust and press whenever necessary
excite her, you can press the end of your penis against the head of her
clitoris. This excites her but has the advantage that as you aren't
thrusting,you are going to last longer. Let her use your penis to tap
her genitals, and many women like this as a part of foreplay. When you
do penetrate her, let your penis rest in the entrance to her vagina
rather than thrusting it in straight away.
sensitive parts are in the entrance to her vagina, and if you enjoy
shallow thrusts rather than deep ones, you will not only last longer
when you are making love in bed, but you will get greater pleasure
yourself when you finally do orgasm - a longer build up to orgasm
always feels better during sex.
When you first feel
the heightened sensitivity and energy in your penis that you know
you'll soon explode, don't panic! Too many men are pushed over the
edge,right to ejaculation, because they mentally begin to panic when
they feel they're close to orgasm. Panic phrases rush through their
heads, like: "Uhoh, I'm gonna blow!" and "Not again, this is going to
be embarrassing." Instead of letting these counter-productive thoughts
fill your mind and quicken the onset of orgasm, instead calmly say in
your head:"Okay, I'm close to ejaculating.
sensitive part of your penis is the top of the shaft and especially the
head. To decrease its stimulation (without stopping the 'action')
slowly and deeply thrust into your partner, as far as you can go and
she can pleasurably take.
Then, gently grind your
hips, wiggling your pubic bone (the hard area above your penis, about 8
inches down from your belly button) on her vagina. To her,this seems
and feels like a wonderful stroke variation, which gives herexternal
clitoral stimulation (the number one way to make any woman orgasm).
behind the scenes, it's momentarily decreasing your
stimulation,enabling you to last longer. This happens because when you
plunge deep intoher, your penis enters a wider area of her vagina,
which lessens its contact and stimulation.
cap it off, you grind and wiggle, instead of thrusting in and out,which
further decreases the intense sensations of sex. After 30 seconds or
so,your arousal levels will have dropped enough for you to restart your
By using this technique, you're able to
control your urge to pop withoutstopping sex and while giving your
partner extra sexual stimulation.
said that, lasting longer isn't just about finding new ways to enjoy
sex, or new positions that help you last longer - it's also about you
having the right mental attitude, a positive approach to premature
ejaculation, inwhich you are optimistic about the likelihood of you
being able to control your ejaculation.
into a sexual encounter that teases and promises of the delights to
come: the longer you extend the initial phases of the sexual
encounter,the more rewarding the later stages of thrusting and
ejaculation will be.Indeed, it's at this stage of sex that you might
like to consider giving your partner an orgasm - see the advice above
if you want to know why this helps inthe matter of lasting longer.
you have fun in bed, and when you make sex last longer by extending
foreplay, there's also the benefit of increased intimacy between you.
Just relax and focus on what you are doing together - not on the sex
part, because that may well increase your nervousness and cause you to
develop anxiety whichwill only make you come quicker.
is a known fact that certain sexual positions will you help last
longerthan others during intercourse. Positions where your partner is
on top will begive way less stimulation to the penis and therefore sex
should last a little longer than in positions like the doggie style for
Some sexual positions are better to make her climax than
others. The biggest trick is figuring out the best position for your
girl, because every woman's body is different. There are women who can
only climax with clitoral stimulation and others who can wildly orgasm
from penetration alone. The following 8 sexual positions seem to work
for the majority of women. Please try them all and pick your favorite!
missionary position works for many women because it allows for
deeppenetration. For additional stimulation, use your fingers on her
clitoris whileyou thrust in and out.
ii)Missionary With A Twist
you want to spice up the missionary sex position, lift her legs up
ontoyour shoulders while you penetrate her vagina. This opens her up
for evendeeper penetration and makes stimulation of her g-spot easier.
iii)This is your mission
it is not the most explosive of sexual positions and, hey, it may not
even merit the "Best Position in the Bedroom"award. This position,
nonetheless, is most helpful for men who want to prolongcoitus.
of coitus, you can try practicing coitus interruptus, which
entailsdeliberately withdrawing your slimy guy from her vagina prior to
ejaculation andholding it. Soon afterward, you may insert your little
guy back in and continue on your merry way.
the instant she lifts her legs in the air or you lift your ownbody, you
may end up feeling more intense sensations. We, therefore, recommend
that you begin with body-to-body missionary and slowly work your way up
some guys lose control, considering they don't haveany power when the
woman on top does all the maneuvering, many men find a woman's
back-and-forth thrusting (rather than up and down) very comfortable.
her to take control of the situation can help you concentrate onkeeping
your orgasm at bay. As well, you get to watch your sweetheart
bouncearound while she does her thing.
thrusting thing becomes child's play for you, you can try letting her
squat. But be warned: The squatting position is likely to make you lose
yourmind (and your semen) a lot faster. That's because her vagina tends
to hug yourpenis rather tightly, and your genitals and hers are the
only two body parts that are touching.
sexual position allows for maximum penetration and very easy access to
her clitoris. All you have to do is reach around her while you
penetrate, and thereit is. Doggy style also gives the woman the ability
to control the speed of thrusting, pushing back or pulling forward as
her orgasm gets closer.
vi)Girl On Top
women like to be on top because this gives them room to move their
bodyaround until they find the sweet spot. This sexual position also
gives easy access to the clitoris for easy stimulation and wild orgasms
vii)Face to Face
great position that'll help most men last longer inthe sack is the
"sitting inside each other" position. You sit with your legs crossed
and she sits atop you doing the same and controlling the tempo.
great thing about this position is that you get to rub her back or pull
herby the shoulders and suck on her breasts with ease. As well, she can
bite into your neck or rub your back while you both enjoy a constant
When you become accustomed to this
situation and learn adequate penis control,then you can give her some
new instructions and get her to squat up and down onyour member while
she puts her hands on your knees for balance.
position should usually be reserved for morning sex.With her back
facing you, lift up one of her legs and insert yourself inside her warm
Although the initial feeling may be that
of tightness, if you brace yourself,the feeling will become more
comforting. Many guys are able to control themselves and last longer in
can easily and quickly re-train your body and re-condition your mind
toejaculate only when you are ready to do so. You can be able to go as
long asyou or your partner would like and as hard as you want in any
position you choose.
Sex is about giving and getting
satisfaction. Being able to last a little longer by just laying there
just won't do. There are much better ways of ending premature
ejaculation and having longer lasting more satisfying sex.
of the finest anti-premature ejaculation strategies is to ensure she
has an orgasm first. Since women do not "come down" from their orgasm
as fast as men, she will still be interested in more sexual activity
with youafter she has come, so you can ensure sex lasts longer, that
your lovemaking continues for longer, and that you are a longer, better
lover in bed!
If you have already ejaculated, you're
bound to last longer next time - andyes, you have to stay awake rather
than drop off to sleep. When you've come,kiss and cuddle until she and
you are aroused again, then make love for a second time. True, you may
find the sensation of making love to your partner when you have already
ejaculated in her vagina very arousing and exciting: even so, hopefully
the fact that you are going for a second orgasm will mean you last
longer during sex.